Is the relationship between Bella and Edward abusive?

If you are in a relationship and someone is trying to convince you that they will kill themselves if you weren’t with them, that is emotional abuse. If you are in a relationship with someone and you have to check with them whether or not you can hang out with someone else, that is emotional abuse. If you are in a relationship with someone and they follow you when you go out with friends or come into your room at night and watch you sleep, that is stalking. These are all signs of an abusive relationship. And these are all things that Edward did to Bella.

Let’s talk about how Meyer tried to justify this, shall we? Bella is supposed to be Edward’s “personal brand of heroin”. She is compared to being a drug because he can’t seem to shake his dependence on her, but she causes him to experience indescribable thirst. Meyer’s justification for Edward’s abusive nature is to say, “well Bella started it”. Let me be clear to the people who are in these situations, you are not the reason that your abuser abuses you. This is a problem with him, not her.

But let’s also flip this post on its head. Bella is an abuser too. She participated in extreme sports and put herself in dangerous situations so that she could hear Edward’s voice after he left her. She created ultimatums so that Edward would do something that he has clearly not supported. And she used her friends and their families to get her way.

(Side note: I’m not going to be talking about the grooming stuff in this post. I have another post where I went into more details about my thoughts on that there, but this post is for essentially everything else).

There are so many examples of abuse throughout these books, so I want to be very clear. THESE ARE NOT HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. Please, do not treat any of the relationships as something to look up to. Also for the record, here are other instances of emotional abuse throughout the books that I particularly took note of:

  • Bella used the words that Renee said when she left Charlie so that she could go to Phoenix in Twilight
  • Jacob telling Charlie that he is a werewolf in order for Renesmee to stay in his life in Breaking Dawn
  • Jacob makes Bella say that she wants him to kiss her in order for him to still be her friend after her engagement in Eclipse
  • Bella using Rosalie to be able to force Edward to let her keep the baby (and Edward pushing for an abortion)

If you or someone you know is being sexually exploited or assaulted, call 800.656.HOPE to contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline. Or you can text 741741 to get in contact with a crisis counselor.

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

The Premise of New Moon is Dumb

Okay, so this is the biggest thing that grinds my gears. Now, when I was researching this topic, the only major publication that I saw that mentioned this was Seventeen. But let me tell you, I got opinions, so buckle up folks, it’s about to get real.

Like, this whole thing was months after Edward and Bella started dating. And also like a year after she moved to Forks. So you’re going to tell me that homeboy could handle months of periods but one tiny paper cut and he loses his mind? No, no, not today. And even then, he was surrounded by other students, which means he handled years of periods, years of scrapes, and years of paper cuts.

And also, as I have reread the books, HOMEBOY HANDLED BELLA IN A PUDDLE OF HER OWN BLOOD. Like really, are you kidding me? Yes, he was attacking another vampire at the time, but he sat in a car with her as she was covered in blood and didn’t do anything. Read that again, he was in A FREAKING CAR with her covered in blood and he DID NOTHING! And suddenly a paper cut and she loses his mind? Dumb. Pure dumb.

I have nothing else to say. It’s dumb.

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

Is Twilight an example of grooming?

This has been one of the bigger issues I have had with the series as a whole. For people confused about what grooming is, let me explain. Grooming in this case means that someone who is over the age of consent (usually much older, though it could be as young as 18 depending on the situation) takes time to prepare someone under the age of consent for a sexual relationship. Giving gifts, spending extra time and attention, or using manipulation and threats in order to eventually have a sexual relationship are all examples of grooming.

There is a thought piece by Dr. Leslie Kay Jones ( that was posted on NBC that is extremely interesting about this topic in relation to vampire fiction specifically that I hope you will read, but I will share my thoughts on the whole is this grooming thing now:

At 12 years old, I didn’t know what grooming meant. I don’t think it was at the top of anyone’s mind back before the Me-Too movement. Now that we are in a situation where we as a general public have a better understanding of what right and wrong look like, I can’t get over this situation. As an adult, I can never encourage a child to think that this type of relationship is okay.

At the start of their relationship in the books, Edward has been in his body for over 100 years (there is an argument of “alive”, at least from his point of view, so I will be avoiding that word), while Bella has only been in her body for 17 years. The concept of the book is that Edward, whose body was frozen in time at the age of 17 years old, develops a relationship with 17 year old Bella, and from that relationship, they marry and eventually have a child.

Now, we let’s have the conversation of “is this still grooming if he appeared to be 17?” Yes. It was very clear from the beginning of the novel that he has maintained the mentality of his years on the Earth. He has learned, retained his knowledge, and experienced plenty of years, many more than Bella ever had the chance to yet. With all of that being said, he also constantly pushed for her to be older before they took things to the next step (changing her and sex).

And listen, there are always going to be people who are going to say that a relationship with someone older could also be considered grooming because he had the body of a 17 year old. I’m just saying, maybe the whole “turning vampires into sexual objects” thing for young adults isn’t the best idea.

But in case all of that is not creepy enough for you all, let’s talk about Jacob and Renesmee. Now, I already know that Meyer explained it and that it isn’t a sexual thing, but like, I’ll say it, imprinting is 100% a sexual thing. Maybe not right away, because she is a BABY, but at some point, she is going to reach adulthood, and guess what Jacob is planning on doing one day. I’ll say the statement that is controversial, yet brave, imprinting is an excuse for grooming.  To anyone who is considering reading the Twilight series, and especially anyone who is reading this who is considering letting the younger generation read this series, please teach them that lesson. These men (who are in their late teens. I believe Jacob was 17 when he imprinted on Renesmee who was born less than 30 minutes prior. I believe Quil was 16/17 when he imprinted on a 2-year-old) have given gifts, spent extra time and attention, and have used the excuses of “it’s a wolf thing” and “it’s not like that” to manipulate the adults involved and justify their relationship. Sound familiar?

I am not an expert, I’m just a concerned reader. And I don’t know everything about grooming, but there are certain things about these books that I just can’t get past. If you want to see other people’s opinions about this topic, you can check out these links as well (please note: there are a lot of links I did not add. There is a lot of information on this topic, so please do your own research if you want to know more):

If you or someone you know is being sexually exploited or assaulted, call 800.656.HOPE to contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline. Or you can text 741741 to get in contact with a crisis counselor.

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

December is Twilight Month!

Hear ye, hear ye! I am here to announce that the month of December, I will be reading and giving my thoughts on the books pertaining to the Twilight Saga.

Before this month begins, I would like to start with a warning. I had all of the intentions in the world to go into this month with positive thoughts. I had planned to write happy reviews, especially because these books and subsequent movies have been a part of my life since I was pre-pubescent. HOWEVER, I went in. I went so far in that I feel like I need to write an apology letter to Stephenie Meyer.

This month, I talk about a lot of really rough topics. Many of them involve abusive situations. I will always give you a warning before going into such heavy topics.

It is my intention that the week of Christmas 12/21-12/25, I will be posting reviews associated to the holiday (at this moment, I am unsure how many novels that will be). I am not sure when I will be receiving my Advent Calendar from Once Upon a Book Club, but I will be posting those gifts as a lead up to the day. I also have order the Christmas and New Year’s Eve boxes, and I am hoping to be posting those around the time of those holidays as well.

I have received invitations from many independent authors to read and highlight their novels. If you or someone you know would like their works reviewed, please feel free to email me at Or, if you have a book that you are hoping I will read, also feel free to reach out. I am always looking for new books to read!

I have been incredibly humbled by the amount of support I have been receiving this year. I am grateful to each and every one of you, and I hope you have enjoyed being a part of this adventure with me. 2020 has been rough for all of us, but I am so happy with we are heading. Thank you all, and I will see you again Friday!

Let’s Talk… How do the Hunger Games movies stack up to the books?

In March of 2012, Lionsgate released the movie The Hunger Games to movie theaters across the globe, thereby blowing up the already popular fandom. Quickly, people who never read the books (I had just read the books since my friends were excited for the movies) were getting into the conversation. Over the next 3 years, 3 more movies were released to the world, bringing the trilogy into a 4 movie extravaganza. Also, not sure if ya’ll know this or not, but they are turning the prequel The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes into a movie as announced by the Hollywood Reporter.

I am always skeptical of movies adapted from books. A lot of the time, those movies just can’t really compare, so I always feel like I need to talk about the movies as separate entities. While I will always recommend you read the books before you see the movie, I also understand that there are a lot of people who don’t like to read (which like, thanks for stopping by if that’s you). So with that being said, and because I truly am an entertainment garbage heap, I am here to give you a review on both!

So I’m going to talk about the first two movies, and then I will be discussing the second two. I group them this way, because the first two follow the books almost to a t. There were many times while I was reading where I could perfectly see the movie in my head. There were very few things that were changed or added (thank you for not making us sit through hours of Cato being tortured), and they really were good adaptations.

And then we get to the last two movies. Firstly, I don’t think we really needed the last book to be two movies. And if you are looking at “was the large majority of the book represented in the movies?” the answer is yes. The problem is the amount of filler. While I understand that they wanted to show the unrest in the districts, at a certain point they just put stuff in to make the book into two movies (and I mean, Harry Potter did it, so we had to do it, right?). And unlike the first two, I couldn’t really picture scenes from the movies as I was reading.

I’m always going to have a special place in my heart. While I was really struggling with anxiety issues, I would put these movies on to help me go to sleep (which now that I’m thinking about it, is something I really should talk to a therapist about), so I could probably quote most of the movies. With that being said, read the books. Thanks for coming to my TEDtalk.

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

Let’s Talk… Team Peeta or Team Gale?

Heads up: this post includes spoilers. If you still haven’t read the series or watched the movies, I truly encourage you to read/watch before reading this post.

Here’s the thing about being old, I remember this question as a huge topic of conversation when I was in high school. But now that I have a blog where I can actually talk about this question without having a bunch of teenage girls telling me I’m wrong (at least for now), I am finally going to say my thoughts on this important fandom decision.

I have always said that I am Team Peeta, which I think at the ripe old age of 16 was a good place to align yourself. But I’m almost 25, and it is time that I reeducated myself and made a more informed decision. So having just reread the books, here are my new thoughts on the matter:

So let’s start in the first book. Initially, I am Team Gale. Gale is her hunting partner, he agrees to take care of her family, and throughout most of the first book, Gale is the first person Katniss is thinking of. Obviously, compared to the relationship with Peeta which is more or less fake, it is easy to jump on the Gale bandwagon. And before people come at me, every single second that Katniss was having her romantic moments with Peeta while in the cave, she continued to think “what would I need to do in order for Haymitch to send us stuff?” and that’s why she did it. That’s why she told the story of the goat, that’s why she kissed him, and that’s why we have two victors in the 74th annual Hunger Games.

When it comes to the second book, that’s when we start thinking that maybe there is a choice to be made. While we spend a lot of time thinking about Gale before the games, but there is a huge drop-off once we are in the Game with Peeta. The first moment when we all kinda think “okay, maybe this thing going on between Katniss and Peeta is real” is when Peeta hits the force field and Katniss loses her mind as Finnick saves his life. And while should more or less be up in the air, at this point, I am exclusively on Team Peeta.

The third book cements those feelings for me. With Peeta stuck in the Capital, it is no wonder that Katniss can’t get him out of her mind. But even in District 13 with Gale, she doesn’t really cling to him as much as we would expect. In fact, I think she had more romance with Finnick than she did with Gale. But once Peeta is back, the immediate reaction to seeing him is tampered by his torture from the Capital. But even when Katniss is saying that she is not interested, that she hates him, whatever, she still thinks about him all the time. By the time we reach the end of the book, Katniss is forced to make her decision. Even if Gale wasn’t the brainchild that killed Prim, I still think that Katniss would have chosen Peeta. Every second that she kept him alive, even after he tried to kill her, even after he begged for death, I am sure that she was always going to choose him.

I think if you based it off the movies, you could be Team Gale because A) Liam Hemsworth aka Thor, God of Thunder,’s brother and B) the movies don’t give you as much access into Katniss’s thoughts. But, based solely on the books, I think the ultimate winner is Peeta. I said it, I meant it.

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

Let’s Talk… Horror

So I’ll be honest, horror is not my genre. I very rarely pick up books that are considered horror mainly because I have many triggers that are tropes for horror. For that reason, this post will probably seem a little disjointed and a lot more educational than personal.

Horror is designed by fear. This fear could be of the supernatural, this fear could be Jason in the woods killing teenagers at a camp, and/or this fear could even be being stuck in a monotonous loop that you can’t get out of. Clearly, based on my lack of experience in the genre, I’m not a huge fan of fear. However, there are a lot of people who enjoy being afraid, which all power to ya. There are books that you can find “scary” that are not horror books, just as there are books that are universally accepted as “horror” that you may think is not scary. Horror is probably one of the hardest genre (imo) to classify because everyone has different triggers and different levels of response.

In a Google search of popular writers within the genre, H.P. Lovecraft, Mary Shelley, and Stephen King are among the most common names I have seen. Surprisingly (or maybe not so), there are few authors in the YA genre that are also in this list. From personal experience, Laurie Faria Stolarz is a really good YA horror writer (and I personally think her stuff is scarier that Stephen King’s *shots fired*).

So, here are my tips for you guys:

  1. Know what triggers you. While it feels weird telling you my kryptonite, but I am triggered by paranormal, especially demonic, activity. I have noticed in my time as an avid reader, I can handle a lot more while I am reading, but I can’t handle watching. So if there is a movie for the books I am reading in the horror genre, I probably won’t watch it. Know your limits and be willing to give yourself the chance to walk away when needed.
  2. Figure out what gives you the biggest rush. The entire purpose for the genre is to have you experience fear, so figure out what will cause that. But be willing to try out things that are outside of that. There is a scene in Divergent where Tris finds out that she is afraid of something after experiencing someone else’s fear dream. Sometimes you won’t know unless you are willing to try.
  3. Which leads to the final tip: try. As amazing as popular horror writers are, there are many less popularized authors that are killing it in the genre. Try new books, new authors, and new ideas; you never know what you will discover.

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

Let’s Talk… The MCU

Okay, I might be abusing the powers on this one, but hear me out: they started as comic books right, and I review books! So, even though I have literally never read a comic book (except for the collection of Calvin and Hobbes my brother owned) in my entire life, it fits the theme of the blog, right? Look, it’s a stretch, but I’m the one with the power here (probably a mistake), so here are my thoughts.

Let me preface this post by saying, I have literally binge watched all the Marvel Cinematic Universe (MCU) movies (minus The Incredible Hulk, which really is because Disney+ doesn’t have it) in the course of a week, so I need to bring this chapter to a close. Also, I am writing this on August 30th, 2020, two days after Chadwick Boseman, who played Black Panther, died of colon cancer. (Crazier: I was in the middle of watching Black Panther when the news broke. It changed the way I watched the last movies, and it gave me a whole ‘nother level of respect for the man). I watched all the movies in “chronological order” as listed on techradar. Which, I have some opinions on the order now that I watched them, but we will get to that. Also, I’m going to do my best not to spoil, but like, that’s hard. Even the actors have a hard time not spoiling (*Cough,cough* Mark Ruffalo and Tom Holland *Cough, cough*). So anyway, here is me being power hungry and telling you about something that has been almost my entire life for the past week.

Before watching any of these movies this week, I had only seen Thor, Thor: The Dark World, and the Avengers. I had never seen an Ironman or Captain America movie, which now that I have experienced the MCU feels blasphemous. But I digress. Anyway, right off the bat, Captain America became my favorite avenger. I mean, he was the first one! And sure, RDJ is Mr. Marvel, but you can’t deny America’s *ss, am I right? (They say it in Endgame, this wasn’t just me being creepy, though I recognize how it sounds now, okay I’m getting out of this parenthetical now) Anywho, I decided pretty early on into this viewing that I was putting all my eggs into the CA basket. And up to the Guardians of the Galaxy, he was unmatched. And really, it was GotG 2 when the new favorite was crowned. Say it with me folks, Baby Groot.

As someone who has a twitter, but never seen the Marvel movies until now, I never really understood the whole Baby Groot thing (which, I’ve never seen a Star Wars movie, so I don’t get the whole Baby Yoda thing either, come at me Internet). But like, I get it now. Please, I am begging you, if you would like to send me any Baby Groot merchandise, please slide into my DMs. But regardless, Groot is now my man.

Now, when it comes to the movies you should watch and now watch, here’s my hook-up. Watch: you need to see GotG, both volumes. Truly, they are incredible, beautiful, and funny. Watch: Black Panther. There is no better explanation than it is set in Nigeria, with POC actors and the main actor filmed all these movies with Stage 3 cancer, so like, watch it! Oh, and remember how I said I wish they order was different? I personally would have watched Black Panther right after Civil War, but you do you boo. Don’t watch: Thor: Ragnarok. I have no idea why they decided to do this, but they started making Thor into a comedy character instead of a superhero. It really wasn’t a good movie, which is disappointing because Valkyrae is a bad*ss. Watch: the Spiderman movies. I was sure going in that these movies had to be overhyped, but they were really really good. I personally think Far from Home was better than Homecoming, but man, these are really good.

I don’t know what is coming for the MCU. I know that we are FINALLY going to get a Black Widow movie, but with COVID continuing to be an issue in the US, I’m not sure when we are going to get it, or if the movie will be part of the Disney+ Premier subscription (which I am also SO excited for Mulan). Starting this year (hopefully), Disney is also working on TV shows for the characters as well, but we are still not sure with everything going on in the world. What I do know? I am now a Marvel junkie, and until we can get a new movie, I am going to be trying my best to be patient.

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

Let’s Talk… OwlCrate

This is an unboxing of the August 2020 box. I am not sponsored by OwlCrate (but my love can be bought) and they did not ask me to do this. I am doing this purely because I love books, subscription boxes, and giving you guys the inside skinny on whether you should buy this or not. All opinions are my own.

I’m not sure when I first heard about OwlCrate. It may have been Instagram, it may have been Facebook, but eventually I started seeing enough ads that I figured I would give it a shot. I have talked about many subscription boxes (see this), but I never took the plunge on this one. When I did, I initially was put on a waiting list which only made me miss one box. This August box is the first OwlCrate I have ever received.

Firstly, the packaging is adorable. While I wouldn’t rank it as high as Once Upon a Book Club, I think the packaging (due in large part to the owl tracks along the side of the box, which are not pictured) is far and above Unplugged Book Box, Uppercase, and Book of the Month. I think it is on par with the Bookish Box, although I could be swayed into thinking it is better. Not the point, but I’m super excited!

Picture 1: While I know that this might not be super exciting for most people, I literally said “whoa” as I opened it. Such a beautiful pen, and I almost don’t want to touch it because I don’t want to get my fingerprints all over it.

Picture 2: I am not a pin collector, but I have noticed that this is a VERY popular gift in these types of subscription boxes. It is an incredibly beautiful pin, but it will probably be going into my bowl of collected pins. Not my type of gift, but still really cool.

Picture 3: I was today years old when I learned that I suck at taking pictures of bandana. Would you have guessed that’s what that is? It is silk, and it seems like very high quality. I actually have been telling myself that I need to get bandanas (’cause my quarter life crisis is real), and this is more than I could have ever hoped for!

Picture 4: Okay, this is the clear winner for me! I love me a book sleeve, and it is so incredibly pretty! You can bet your bottom that I will be using this in the very near future!

Picture 5: I will say that I definitely was not expecting a clipboard. While it is the size of a smaller wordpad, I am excited to use this. While sometimes it seems like I talk out of my butt on this blog, I actually take a lot of notes about things to talk about, so I will definitely be using this.

Picture 6: Inside the bottle is pushpins, which I don’t use that often. HOWEVER, they suggested that once the bottle is empty, to put fairy lights inside which I AM HERE FOR. So, this will be in my new set-up, but sans pins.

I haven’t read this book yet (obviously, Elizabeth, since you just opened the box), so I’m going to post the synopsis as available on Goodreads:

The daughter of a star and a mortal, Sheetal is used to keeping secrets. Pretending to be “normal.” But when an accidental flare of her starfire puts her human father in the hospital, Sheetal needs a full star’s help to heal him. A star like her mother, who returned to the sky long ago.

Sheetal’s quest to save her father will take her to a celestial court of shining wonders and dark shadows, where she must take the stage as her family’s champion in a competition to decide the next ruling house of the heavens–and win, or risk never returning to Earth at all.

This gorgeously imagined YA debut blends shades of Neil Gaiman’s Stardust and a breathtaking landscape of Hindu mythology into a radiant contemporary fantasy. 

If you are looking to buy it and are confused because it is not purple, it is the same book! OwlCrate’s exclusive version has the purple cover, and all the pages are purple gilt edged, which makes the book look more spooky. While I am, admittedly, not a huge fantasy person, I am excited to give this one a chance, purely because it is so beautiful (yes, I judge books by their covers, sue me).

One of the reasons why I have limited the amount of subscription boxes I am still subscribed to is due to the number of gifts I received that I never used or knew what to do with. There are upsides and downsides to be subscribed to these types of boxes, which leaves me in a tough position. I feel like once my three month period is up, I probably will not renew. I am at a point in my life where I really need to downgrade (ew, am I getting old?), so I don’t necessarily think I need all of the items that are given in the box. HOWEVER, I cannot explain to you how surprised (in the best way) by this box. Compared to other boxes I have gotten, this box has A LOT more items that are more my style. So I leave the ball in your court, dear reader. You can get your own OwlCrate at starting at $29.99/month, and let me know what you guys think!

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!

Let’s Talk… The Questions

When we learn to form questions, we are told to use the magic words: who, what, when, where, why, and how. I remember being in 3rd grade and having to write stories for class. We had to sit there and plan out all of those questions before we could start writing the story. So why don’t we do that for our lives too? We are so excited to make changes, to “fix” yourself, to make things better, but we don’t sit back and ask ourselves the simple questions. So I figure, since I am taking you guys on this emotional journey with me, to give you my answers.

Who: Elizabeth

What: Happiness

When: Whenever I can get there

Where: Wherever I can get there

Why: I don’t want to wake up in the morning and complain. I don’t want to go to a job I hate for the sake of money. I want to do something that I love, and work my butt off for it. I want to wake up and smile instead of scowl. I want to be moving, not stuck. I want to experience. I want more out of my life.

How: 1) Exercise and eat right. I need time to be happy and the best way is to start taking care of myself. 2) Meditate. Read the Bible, pray, realign my faith and how that connects to my body. Try yoga. Try not to break my back in the process. 3) Rebuild friendships. There are people that needed to leave my life. There are also people that I removed because life was hard. Figure out who needs to stay and who needs to go. Be selfish when needed. 4) Give back. Volunteer for charities and non-profits. Help when people need it. Give my heart to people who need it. 5) Get out. Go for walks. See my friends. Get off my butt and out in the world. 6) Grow up. Move out and move up. Figure out the next steps. If it scares me, then it probably means that I should do it. Keep moving. 7) Don’t expect things to happen. Take the steps I want to take. Be my own advocate. I got this.

These are my questions. Now ask them to yourself. What are your answers? How long have you been working on them? Everyday is a process. It is a chance to work on your answers. But you gotta want it. It’s not easy, being your better self never is. But hey, you got this!

If you guys have any thoughts or ideas, feel free to leave a comment, find me on the social medias at @elizabooksblog, or email me at And as always, I’ll see you all in the next book!